Life In Marriage
What is marriage and where did it originate from?
Genesis 2:18 shows that God planned is relationship right from the start: “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper as his partner.”
How was marriage supposed to be?
First of all, we do know that God is a holy god, and everything He does is holy. When He created woman this was a sacred act and why woman was created is also holy. Therefore marriage is holy.
According to Genesis 2:22-24, “man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” What does it mean to be united as one flesh?
It means both man and woman should support each other and do decisions as one couple, and not individually. They both do things and act as one couple.
Proverbs 12:4 says, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” Since man and woman are united as one in marriage. whatever the won does, man is affected, and vise versa.
Ephesians 5:22-33 best describes how marriage should be:
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
What does the bible say of sanctity of marriage?
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor by all, and let the marriage bed be kept undefiled; for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.”
Marriage is not just about procreation in response to God’s command of go and multiply. It’s way beyond that. It is also about equal share of responsibilities between husband and wife.
Anything created by God is holy and should never be defiled. Sex is created by God as a gift in marriage. God is keeping sex for you and not from you, in a proper time. 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 says, “Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” While sex is a gift from God we are also reminded that we should also devote a time to worshiping God and having a time for prayer.
What does God desire from man and woman in marriage? Malachi 2:15-16 says, “Did not one God make her? Both flesh and spirit are His. And what does the one God desire? Godly offspring. So look to yourselves, and do not let anyone be faithless to the wife of his youth. For I hate divorce, says the Lord, the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless.”
God allowed man to divorce during Moses’ time. Does this make mean God allows it?
First of all, no matter what view one takes on the issue of divorce, it is important to remember that in Malachi 2:16, it is stated: “I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.” According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6). God realizes, though, that, since marriages involve two sinful human beings, divorces are going to occur. In the Old Testament, He laid down some laws in order to protect the rights of divorcées, especially women (Deuteronomy 24:1–4). Jesus pointed out that these laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because such laws were God’s desire (Matthew 19:8).
Therefore, if you claim to be followers of Christ and godly people, you should stay away from it. Stay away from promiscuity and engaging in intimate relations with other married persons.
While God makes it clear that He wants man and woman to be bound to each other in life, He also makes it clear that this commitment is only within this lifetime and not beyond this life. So, if you have a husband or wide whom you loved and cherished until his or her death. Your commitment to him or her stops there are you are free to see other people again. This is not a sin. Romans 7:1-3 says, “Do you not know, brothers and sisters—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only during that person’s lifetime? Thus a married woman is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives; but if her husband dies, she is discharged from the law concerning the husband. Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man, she is not an adulteress.”
It is very clear in the bible from Genesis, that God created MAN and WOMAN, and not other kind of human species. There is not such thing as being born gay or lesbian, for these are choices that man makes. For God only made man and woman. Anything that deviates from God’s plan is an abomination. While it is not a sin to be tempted as everyone is tempted, including Jesus, the transformation of these into actions constitute sin, and is detestable to God.
We, the church (people of God) are likened as Christ’s bride. As a bride, we should act as one in Christ and with Christ, because if we do otherwise, we are defiling the sanctity of our marriage to Him.
Immorality of all forms especially sexual immorality, led to the downfall of Babylon, Greece, Italy (Rome), Egypt, and many other once-powerful nations. It has always been the case from Old Testament to New Testament up to our existing lives. It is what corrodes our moral character. Everytime we sin, we tend to be lose a bit of our conscience.