Father’s Day Sharing
1 Thessalonians 2:11-12; 1 Corinthians 4:15; 2 Corinthians 6:17-18; John 14:6
Paul lived a single life, but because of his relationship with Christ, he was able to understand how it is to be a spiritual father to others. Because of his genuine love for Christ and his appreciation for what Christ has done for us, it was but natural for him to be both loving and fatherly to the Thessalonians, as well as others.
So what exactly are the roles of a father?
A father encourages his kids. A good father encourages his kids to explore the world and discover their God-given talents and their passion. He is careful not to be too encouraging, but is also careful not to be over-protective.
A father comforts his children. God our Father is the god of all comforts and the source of all comfort. Likewise we, too as fathers, should be such to our children. This is not just providing for material needs, but also emotional needs of the children. A father cannot be too encouraging, always pushing his children to achieve, but should also provide loving comfort and reassurance in times of his children’s failures, and be there for them when they need him most. He should be able to make them understand that it’s ok to fail as we all learn from these failures in life. A father cannot be too demanding, nor too laxed.
A Father leads. Yes, a real father leads by example. What the children observe from their parents, they copy. So if you are full of love and compassion with them and even with strangers, they will eventually become like you as well. Children tend to value the the things that they see in you.
A good father does what is right in the Lord’s eyes, regardless of how hard it is to do it nor how easy. He always do what is right, and he honors his promises, especially to his children. He may bend some rules but only if it’s pleasing to God’s eyes, such as cancelling some appointment just so that you can honor your promise to your child to spend the day with him, or buying a child his favorite toy, because he got exceptionally high grades in school. Things like that. If the child needs disciplining, it is the role of the father to do teach the child some life lessons. After all God is not just a loving God. He is also a just God, so we as fathers should be try to be just too.
One cannot teach goodness and ends up doing shady things in front of his children.His children will become frustrated and will grow up thinking that it is normal to live 2 lives, and to have good sets of friends and one set of friends for hanging out and having dirty kind of fun. There is a saying that goes, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree”. It means kids are like their parents. They pick up both the good and the bad traits from what they see in their parents, that is why, always be mindful of what you say and do in front of your children, and even in their absence. Words spread around like wildfire. If you do good, then there will only be kind words being spread around. However if you do shady things you will most likely be talked about in a negative way by others. It’s just a matter of time before your children hear these scoop about you.
Happy Father’s Day to all fathers!
In our relationship with God, let us remember that God is our Father and we are His children. Remember the story of the Prodigal Son, as told by Jesus? Do you see yourself as the lost son in the story, or do you identify yourself with the eldest son, who worked and toiled for the father, but expected something in return?
Where does your identity and security come from? Does it come from God, or from somewhere else? God knows what is hidden within your heart, no matter how well you hide it, or show it.
Let us thank the Father for His unfailing and unconditional love for us. Let us pray that we would never take this love for granted, and that our identity and security always comes from God alone and nothing else. Let us pray that God makes us useful and uses our life and examples to lead others to Him. Pray for the salvation of our family, relatives and friends.