Marriage The Way God Planned It To Be
Genesis 2:18-24; Hebrews 2:9-11; Mark 10:2-12
From the three readings from the bible, we can clearly see that “God created woman to be his partner. Woman was not taken from the feet of a man so that he may trample her, nor taken from the head of man so that she may be superior to him. She was taken from the side of man that she might walk beside him. She was taken under the arm of man so that man may protect her. She was taken near the heart of man so that he may love her.” This quote is noted by an unknown author.
Men has many qualities that women don’t have, while women have just as many qualities that men don’t have. Woman was created to be complementary to man as a partner. Women are seen as intended to be persons where men find support and strength. In Genesis, when man and woman joins together as a couple, they become one in an intimate relationship rooting in love.
The bible has constantly reminded us the sanctity of this union wherein we become one mind, heart and body as couples. While Moses allowed dismissal on order for divorce during his days, Jesus clearly explained that it was because of our stubbornness that such law was ever written. Jesus clearly stated that God preferred couples to stick together as one, and that people who divorce and marry another is as guilty as committing adultery.
Our issue with separation and divorce is nothing new. It dates back to the biblical times. However, Jesus showed us how to love and be faithful, as He is considered as the groom and we being the Church, are His bride. Having seen how Jesus made all the possible sacrifices to save His marriage to the Church, and how He did the ultimate sacrifice by sacrificing Himself so that we may be saved, that is how God expects us to be in our relationship with our spouses. For the married couples reading this, I’m sure you remember the part wherein at the end of the wedding mass, the priest admonishes the groom by saying the following: “Love your wife as Christ loves His Church.”
In a Church wedding where the love between a man and woman is consecrated before God, God enters into the holy covenant of marriage. It’s not within our power to dissolve this holy covenant. Sure, man has made several laws allowing separation, but these are man-made laws. Man’s laws are different from God’s wishes, and may be selfish and evil in nature at time. Since we are limited in wisdom and knowledge compared to God, we may never know what negative impact we have on the laws that we create.
Through what Jesus showed us in His relationship with the Church, we can clearly see that love is not about feelings, but a commitment, for if Jesus relied on feelings, He wouldn’t have died on the cross for us and just abandoned us right from the start. Hence, the words as popularly heard in church wedding, “for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, till death do us part.” We may lose that loving feeling, but if we freely choose to love despite everything, that is genuine love.
Love does have feeling, but it goes way beyond feelings. It’s a lifetime commitment. Let’s not dwell into our sufferings but rather dwell on our determination and choice to affirm the other person at whatever personal cost, knowing that such a determination on the long run leads to lasting happiness.
Where would we be today if Jesus complained about His pains and frustrations, and decided to abandon us? What God has joined, let no one separate.