The Pit Of Worthlessness
A lot of us have a bottomless pit of worthlessness. We do stuff and acquire stuff just to fill it up, but to no avail. Drugs, booze, cigarettes, sports cars, women, no matter what, they can’t fill up the pit. Work, wealth and warmth are gifts from God. They are blessings. However, they can’t fill up the pit either, because it’s bottomless.
|The Bottomless Pit|
As long as we feel worthless, we will never feel satisfied and whole. The only thing that can cure this is knowing your real worth. Worth is already with you as a child of God. God loves us and values us highly no matter where we are from, where we came from and who we are. We are all important to Him.
Where does this feeling of low self-worth come from? Primarily it comes from our upbringing by our parents, who may not have known any better. A lot of parents are performance-based parents, meaning, they tend to show love and appreciation after a child has done something good. And when a child does something wrong, hurting words are repeatedly thrown at the child causing a scar to the child. He grows up having a low level of self worth, and has conditioned himself that he is only good for this or that, and has limited himself to that. Sometimes I see parents telling their children they feel ashamed because of what their children have done. The parents are afraid of what others might say about them as parents. Although the goal might be good, the means may be wrong, because the child will start to think that their parents are only concerned about themselves, and that they are not important, and are supposed to please others.
Another way of parenting is presence based parenting, wherein you show your love and affection, regardless of whether the child has done something good or not. Showing your child how important he is to you will give him a sense of self-worth and a feeling of being loved. How we treat one another leaves a big impact to one another, especially children.
In terms of spirituality, it’s all the same. We don’t have to perform anything to be loved by God. God loves us just the way we are. He does not expect us to be anything or achieve anything. In fact He is passionate with us, very patient and very understanding. Jesus showed love to sinners by dining with them (tax collectors) mingling with them, healing them, and teaching them in ways that don’t offend them. He showed love and true concern in a loving way, unlike most of us.
For us who have already grown up, let us know that God loves us and that’s all that matters. Let us move on from our past hurts, and forgive the people who has done us wrong, and let God take care of all your conerns. Do not despair when you falter, but instead know that God is there to guide you every step of the way. Pray for His guidance and let him guide you, for He is always willing to help you, if only you let Him. We are not the Lord’s servants, but His friends, as stated in John 15:15. John 15:15-16 states, ” I do not call you servants any longer, because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from my Father. You did not choose me but I chose you. And I appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask him in my name.” That proves how highly He thinks of us. All we have to do is to place our trust in Him, and spread that love that He has shown us to others, including our children.
In addition to this, Matthew 11:28-30 states, “Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” For us city dwellers, we might not understand what a yoke is.
|An actual yoke|
|A yoke is placed on top of the 2 bulls|
A yoke is a long wooden thing placed on top of the 2 bulls. One bull is either weak or sick or too young to handle responsibilities. The other bull is strong and experienced. He is places alongside of the weak bull to guide it. The yoke binds them together so that the load is shared between the weak bull and strong bull.
From this picture, Jesus is telling us to give Him all our worries, and He will take care of us. Just let Him guide us, and He will make everything right. If we realize how special we are to Him, our pit of worthlessness can be transformed to a bottomless pit of worthiness and love.
Psalm 46:10 states, “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” Be still – The word used here – from רפה râphâh – means properly to cast down; to let fall; to let hang down; then, to be relaxed, slackened, especially the hands: It is also employed in the sense of not making an effort; not putting forth exertion; and then would express the idea of leaving matters with God, or of being without anxiety about the issue. And know that I am God – See, in what I have done, the evidence that I am God. See a work accomplished which none “but” God could effect, like the parting of the Red Sea, the healing of the sick, the rising of the dead, the recovered eyesight of the blind, the healed lepers, and the defense of the oppressed people, as shown in
Isaiah 37:36. No other one can accomplish such things other than God. So the Lord is telling us to stop worrying and trust in Him. Give Him all your worries and trust that He will take care of you, and you shall see God’s wonderful works unfold right before your eyes!